This process identifies twelve areas of life and what you need to take care of in the present moment.

  1. Write down the area of life, evaluate it using the guiding questions and give it a score between 1 and 10 (1 = major distress; 10 = perfect)
  2. The questions are used to give you some ideas about what the area might relate to. They are all yes-no answers. It is obvious whether the answer enhances or detracts from your score. These are just a sampling of the questions about the area.
  3. Some people tend to underrate their performance. In order to balance this out, divide 8 by your highest scoring number. Now multiply all your scores by this normalising factor.
  4. There are more instructions after the evaluation. It is best to not read these before you evaluate.

 

The Twelve Areas of Life

Self Image Finance & Values Family Living Conditions
Body Image
& Creativity
Health Relationship Sex
Social Image Career Spirituality Inner world

 

  1. Self Image
    1. Do you like yourself? That is, do you have a positive image of yourself?
    2. Can you list 10 things you find appealing about yourself?
    3. Do you procrastinate?
    4. Do you have at least four people who you consider close friends?
    5. Do you need others or are you content to be alone?
    6. Can you acknowledge your own limitations?
  2. Money & Values:
    1. Do you have a healthy financial state?
    2. Do you have a budget plan and stick to it?
    3. Is your expenditure greater than your income?
    4. Do you do what you say you will do?
    5. Do you maximise your credit card limit?
    6. Have you looked after your possessions?
    7. What is the state of your car? Clean? Messy? Is it used as a storage facility?
  3. Family:
    1. Do you keep a friendly connection with your parent(s)?
    2. Do you keep a friendly connection with all your siblings?
    3. Do you have a good relationship with your children?
    4. Do your children behave when there are visitors?
    5. Do you children behave when the visitors leave?
    6. Do you pay attention to your children when the speak to you?
  4. Living Conditions:
    1. Is you house (or room if sharing) tidy and organised?
    2. Do you usually have plants or flowers in your space?
    3. Do you describe your house as a home?
    4. Is your house welcoming and you often have friends visit?
    5. Do you feel safe and secure at home?
    6. Do you often feel the need to get out?
    7. Can you easily relax and lose the sense of time at home?
  5. Body Image & Creativity:
    1. When you look in the mirror how well does your body meet your ideal image?
    2. Do you have excess fat that is more than optimal?
    3. Do you have some creative interest, painting, poetry, sewing. Pottery, etc?
    4. Do you like to get dressed up in fine clothes?
    5. Do you like to entertain guests to showcase your cooking, or other skills?
    6. Do you often rearrange your furniture to get a different appearance?
    7. Do you sometimes engage in harmless flirting?
  6. Health, Fitness & Service:
    1. Do you assess yourself as living a healthy life?
    2. Do you treat yourself to rewards for work well done?
    3. Do you do things for others outside of for rewards?
    4. Do you often engage in harmful behaviours or addictions, recreational drugs, etc?
    5. If you don’t engage do you sometimes reminisce about such behaviours?
    6. Do you do enough exercise?
    7. Would you describe your level of fitness adequate?
  7. Intimate Relationship:
    1. Do you have a intimate relationship?
    2. Do you spend at least three nights a week with this person?
    3. Are you married or been in a stable relationship for more than five years?
    4. How satisfied are you with your intimate relationship?
    5. In the last week have you been told or shown that you are loved?
    6. In the last week have you said or shown your partner that you love them?
    7. Does your partner know your embarrassing secrets?
  8. Sex:
    1. Do you have an active sex life?
    2. How satisfied are you with your sex life?
    3. How often do you expect your partner to know what you want or desire?
    4. Do you get sex often enough?
    5. Are you asked for sex more than you would like?
    6. Do you orgasm during sex?
    7. Do you do as much as you can to avoid sex?
  9. Social Image:
    1. Do you have a group with whom you feel you belong?
    2. Do you feel part over and above your self?
    3. Do you sometimes take leadership of the group and sometimes follow?
    4. Do you take part in political discussions or avoid them?
    5. Do you lose yourself and your views to more dominant people?
    6. Do you dominate the group?
    7. Do you feel as if the group respects or understands your point of view?
  10. Career:
    1. Does the job you do interest and excite you?
    2. Do you constantly study and investigate your chosen field?
    3. Do you discuss your work with others and find out their views?
    4. Are you practical and can apply what you know?
    5. Do you see yourself in a position of status in your profession?
    6. Do you take responsibility for your actions?
    7. Do you accept your position has a benefit for society?
    8. Do you have an idea where you are going and what you want to achieve?
  11. Spirituality:
    1. Do you feel you have a philosophy to live by? Something more important than yourself?
    2. Do you engage in study and self-improvement?
    3. Are you interested in what is going on in the world?
    4. Are you interested in travel and seeing other places, people and cultures?
    5. Are you interested in understanding other people’s religious and spiritual ideas?
    6. Are you engaged in finding out more about the nature of reality, physics or metaphysics?
    7. Do you have an idea about the meaning of existence?
  12. Inner world or Psyche:
    1. Do you spend any time contemplating your thoughts?
    2. Do you sometimes pick up thoughts that are seemingly not yours?
    3. Do you “zone” out when in company?
    4. Do you acknowledge or listen to intuition?
    5. Do you acknowledge a deeper part of yourself that is sometimes not available?
    6. Do you often remember your dreams? Do you wonder what they mean?

 

  1. After completing all the areas, review the answers and note the difference between your answer and the perfect. (10 minus your answer).
  2. This gives you an idea of how much energy expenditure you need to give this area.
  3. Write a statement that once carried out would bring that area of life back into balance. A score greater than 8 is usually an indicator of a reasonable balance.
  4. The eighty/twenty rule tells us to put energy where the best results are to be had. This is almost always where you have the lowest scores.
  5. You will find that many of your statements contain the same message. Most people have one function that they find difficult to address. This is the one to address.
  6. Address one’s missing function by finding someone who finds this an easy one. Remember that you can’t be naturally great at every function.